Ten Solutions to Save Yourself...and the Planet!

These are my top ten solutions in a nutshell of how I survived Trauma Town.
Easier said than done...totally survivable.

Trauma is a contagious disease, like a mass delusion spilling into realty, which has caused much more harm than Corona Virus (covid-19) or ay other biological threat, even cancer, ever has or ever will, for generations. Its effects are physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Trauma can harm part of us beyond all repair, we will always be forever changed. Trauma can also be healed.

I am giving my personal breakdown of my healing steps and solutions I have found through life experience, other guides and mentors, authors, healers, spiritual teachings, totally mix of real life influence. This nine stage process will work for individual level and can be applied through the tenth solution to organisational level (politics).

I am writing it to you as I am assuming if you have clicked on this blog you are interested in my opinion on how you can save yourself. Remember it is just an opinion if you don't like it you can leave it. Use your own discernment at all times...do what you know is best for you, I am assuming you understand that. I am declaring this for legal purposes and moral ones.

These are my top ten solutions, in a nutshell, of how I survived Trauma Town. Which is (in a nutshell again) a theory involving our populations being under some sort of mass energtic and metal prison but we are blind to it due to a collective Stockholm Syndrome.
A kin to the hysteria of the famous witch hunt in Salem mental illness can spread and this one is keeping us blind and unaware of our own imprisonment. We need to wake up from our illusion and escape out of our mental and spirtual restraints. I refer to it at times as my trauma cage but it is all referring to my theory of the same phenomena.

These small titles are headlines of very big issues I had to overcome. I was very wounded and it took a long time and was very painful at times. My advice would be to be patient and compassionate with yourself and others if you are brave enough to try and follow any of this advice. It will change you, it will cause growth if you allow it and that will hurt, growth always does. I will be exploring the solutions and their causes in more detail through the blog; I really want to see a world free from trauma pain. Trauma will happen through living but it doesn't have to be life sentence of confinement to pain and suffering. I have cracked my trauma cage open through lots of exploration and I hope to help guide others who may resonate with my healing path to understand their and how to be released from their trauma.

Quick List

1. 1. Realise the Lies
   2. Get Curious
   3. Check in with your Heart
   4. Connect with Nature
   5. Connect with Yourself and Others
   6. Choose a Side
   7. Have Difficult Conversations
   8. Tell the Truth and Be Accountable
   9. Practice Non-Compliance
   
   10. Ripple Out
   
   

The initial explore... With the intentions of being on the edge of a hint of Geordie sarcasm and I am 100% serious at all times this is a step by step summary of how to save yourself and the planet.

Realise the Lies

See through the bullshit. Be an honest, prepared adult and really look at what is actually happening in your life, in your physical outer world and your personal inner world. Not through even your perspective now but say if you were beamed back from ten years ago or if you are explaining the situation to an alien. Take off the goggles off! This is the lens of all the filters you have built that are there to try and protect you but are now harming you. Things are not ok, lies are not ok, you are being lied to and that is not ok. Now look at yourself, your life and your situation, are you lying to yourself? That is not ok, start there.

Get Curious

Explore life. Maybe look at the world in general, look around, all around with big open eyes in places you on't usually go from a new perspective of curiosity. Not through the TV, maybe through the internet but be aware sometimes this is helpful but often it is just propaganda or at least biased. Everything is biased, science is biased, medicine is biased, this is biased, it is an opinion not the whole truth.

Question everything. Become a detective. Be your own scientist, always and create your ow bias. Go and do things in real life try and be open to it. Look at things outside of your version of “normal”. Really look without judgement if you can. Asking, when would this be ok? Can help you change your judgement of a situation.

You are always making judgements. Learn to observe and discern rather than judge. Look beyond race, class and labels, try and understand. See the world has different view points and ideas then starting asking yourself some big questions.

Ditch the TV or whatever other addiction you have for a while and instead think about big things instead of busying yourself in small things. Question yourself and seek the answers.

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There are lots of questions you could consider asking, for example...
Is democracy successful? How does someone prove their worth? Why do I have to earn a living? How can someone actually own land? Why does someone else need to tell me as an adult what to do and how to live? Why is so much of our lives dominated and driven by threat? Did I ever fully I consent to living the way I am? Was I offered other options in a democratic way to oppose democracy? Where does money come from? Why should someone else be able to profit from my energy? Why should I seek profit from someone else energy? Is money the only way to gain resources? Who always profits from awful situations like war or global pandemics, who wasn't effected negatively? Who does the world owe £trillions to? Is it really ok that my parents ignored me? Can people ever live in non-violence? Am I violent by nature? What the fuck is life anyway and what do I think the point of it is? Is there anything beyond the physical aspect of life?  If everythin gis energy and if energy can not be destroyed, how can we die? Etc etc

Process, Integrate and Release your Trauma

You have been traumatised. Yes, you have. In one way or another (physically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually) in one environment or another (at home, at school, at work) within one relationship or another (parent, lover, friend). We all have. We have been living in an age of violence, oppression and control and that involves traumatising people and people living in trauma. Any sort of force or threat made to cocerse you to act aginst your own wisdom or that takes away your choce causes a rift or trauma within yourself.

Unless it is processed this becomes a sensitive area, a weakness either conciously or not it makes you vulnerable and hiding it from potential or precived threats makes you sacred and easy to control. Especially since the emotional triggers and trauma, still in your body will make you look and seem totally bat-shit crazy at times. You are not crazy, you have been traumatised and you can heal from it. Trauma needs to be released in three ways, preferably during the same process.

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Trauma needs to be Identified, Expressed and Released.

• You need to see where and what it is and acknowledge how it made you feel, you are going to have to feel those feelings and admit you were really scared.
  
• You need to express the experience, either through words or writing. 
  
• You need to release the energy charge of the trauma physically through trauma release exercises, free-movement or shaking.
  
• You need to rest after, it will have an effect and you will need to re-cooperate.
  

This whole process is vital! The process can be adapted to suit you and done how you prefer to do it but this is the process I have learned and successfully use, very naturally now to process any new or triggered past trauma.

You will need to do this for every single trauma you have ever experienced. Sorry for some of you who are now scared shitless, but yes...every single one. If you want them out of your system that is. You will feel better after each release. Some events might process together as they may be linked and it will get easier as you get more comfortable with your process.

The catch is you have been seeking this solution and once your body knows the healing from this process is possible it will bring up more and more past trauma to be released so be prepared. It is just the way we heal, like peeling layers of an onion. Some onions are bigger than others and if you have lots of layers, this will take a very long time. Make time to do this like you make time to eat. Be kind and patient, you can't and wont be able to rush this process.

Check in with your Heart

Every day, as much as possible, put your hands on your heart, remind yourself you do love, you can love, you are love and you are loved, you are acceptable, you are worthy and you are needed, as you are. As often as you can, all the time, any time, especially if you are stressed, anxious, afraid or depressed. Also remember what you are grateful for, this generally leads to love. Remind yourself how much you love other people or beings in your life too, maybe express that in an obvious and honest way (like by saying it and meaning it).

We need lots of love...everywhere, all the time. When you feel love, stop playing safe. Follow the feeling of love even if it starts to introduce risk into your life and find your limits. Stay connected to that heart space and if it doesn't feel like love any more it isn't, stop what you are doing and walk away towards love again. Find your limits, safely expand them where you can and notice where they are fixed. Now play in that area, freely!

Connect with Nature

This includes your true nature but it is generally found, in actual nature. Go where you like, water, mountain, moors, forests, fields whatever you like in nature go to it. Sit in it and take time to be still in it and enjoy it. Touch the trees, smell the air, walk in the grass. Like be a real actual human who was born on planet earth. Meditate, be in the moment, eat, play, breath, don't be on your phone.

You need to connect with your body, since it is a mammal and part of nature. Try and see your body for what it is without clothes and ideals of magazines. See it for its evolutionary magic. Try and learn to love it. Eat more natural food, eat organic food. Try herbal medicines, look into shamanism and plant healing if it appeals to you. Connect with what provided for us before we were told it was not. Experiment and be receptive, nature does not communicate like humans do, she communicates through experience and emotion (energy motions) you will have to learn this language to get the best from her.

Connect with Yourself and Others

Start to prioritise what you love and what is important to you. Journal, take yourself to places that help you relax or inspire you. Call people, write letters, send cards. Think of people and send well wishes. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you love you (or start with like, care, appreciate or respect if you can't love yourself yet). Make sure the things you love, know you love them, including yourself!

Practice getting comfortable living with the love vibe all the time, stop trying to convince yourself thats not allowed. Love can still have discipline and love can still make a business decision you can take love to work and you can set a boundary and love someone. My book How I like to be Loved could really help you understand yourself and who, where, when and how you want to connect with others. I'd recommend that process too!

Choose a Side

No judgement on my part but it is time to be discerning and it is time to decide your lane. Now you see the actual dichotomy we are living in I hope you understand by now a middle ground will not work. The middle path between the spiritual and bodily is to be yourself and live as you choose. But you must choose it. You have free will and doing nothing is an automatic choice to go along with whatever end or energy prevails. At the minute I think the scales are tipped in the favour of fear, sadly. It will take a choice and change for love to over-ride, but love has more power innately than fear, as fear has to be created out of love anyway...I digress. Choose.

Do you want fear, manipulation and control as the dominant force in the world or do you want love, freedom and truth? Do you think we should invest in a manmade system or reinvest in a natural one? Choose, where do you fit and live it! It can be hard to choose love amongst so much fear, it will take courage. Fear needs love to spread, it is really just a parasite and part of the illusion.

See fear for what it is, I like the acronym F.E.A.R. False Evidence Appearing Real. Thats what fear is, it is mainly an illusion, a belief in your system that you are in danger, you will not survive this, you do not have the resources you need to live; you are believing a story (possibly one you have made up) and not seeing and feeling into the truth behind the story.

Once you have chosen your side it has to become who you are. Live it with every choice you make from your buying habits to your communication style, stop trying to fit in with something you are not, stop going to places you don't want to go, stop funding things your side does not fund. Choose a side and live within the values of that side without shame or manipulation, live it loud and proud without having to prove anyone else to be wrong.

When choosing a side I do not mean to start a war but more to live as you choose fuly in order to understand and choose properly. You can not choose based on an idea we need to choose based on experince and live it full heartedly. Through living your choice you might change your side and try living something totally different for a while. At this time I honestly think we need to come together but until we can learn to accept all the sides of ourselves and all the sides of others, and debate from a space of knowing all sides, we can never find harmony. Choosing your side does not mean closing down, rejecting or making wrong all other sides. It is not about choosing the "right" side or being on the "winning side. Choosing a side is expansion and knowing it well is wisdom, lving in a space that allows all sides to exist is solid and balanced.

Have Difficult Conversations

Be brave! You have to be, now is the time. Do healing work before, during and after but have difficult conversations. Do not avoid them any longer,avoidance is a waste of energy it is draining you and causing you harm. Stop it! No need to be aggressive, just confront things as they arise, like an adult. Deal with the feelings that come up, fully process the experience, interrogate it into your life and move on without the need to avoid. Easier said than done, yes but this is the ultimate solution. Practice make perfect apparently.

I have not found perfect yet but I have had some nice tries practising. Some beautiful moments of connection too. Everyone loves a tryer at least, be clear of your intention before you connect (hopefully that intention is not to cause harm, if it is do the love thing for longer).
NVC helped me, but this will involve some emotional intelligence so the previous steps will help and this is a cycle of a system, you will go around and around as you heal many layers of hurt and lies. Be kind to yourself, you have been hiding a lot of pain and that hurts. Releasing it hurts, but always makes it better in the long run.

Practice Non-Compliance

You are a sovereign being of this earth. Stand your ground, walk your path, grow your way, know your mind. You are unique, an individaual be authentic. You are an adult. You can choose to give over your decision making control function to everyone else or other authorities or you can choose to make up your won mind and act accordingly.

Practice not going along with things. Start small if you have to, stand up big when you need to. Create a proper strategy of where and how you want to experiment making new choices for yourself. Try making up your own mind in different relationships in different situations, try it in various environments and surroundings. Day to day practice choosing for yourself and deciding if you will conform or not and know your choice is fine.

It might be worth knowing why you are making your choice so you can understand yourself (by asking yourself why?). You may face consequences for the choices you make and you will face consequences for the choices you don't make. At least the consequence of your own making are yours. Know your experience matters...it matters to humanity and it matters to you! You might just find your life gets better because it is yours and you chose it.

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Ripple Out

If we follow the same process for self, home, work we will create a much better world, I think. We can just adopt the same principles to slightly larger relationships. Within a couple or a family or a friend group or work team. As we slowly get used to processing our trauma and becoming more healthy and connected things will naturally improve everywhere. Harmony will come as a side effect of finding inner and then creating outer truth.

She says...easier said than done, but this was my process. I feel pretty great and healthy now and I felt like utter shit that I wanted to die before so it made a big difference for me it is incomparable. It has taken time and obviously I am a human so now I have life as it happens to process and being free of my trauma has allowed me to be able to actually enjoy it, free from pain and inner conflict.

Imagine if we could eradicate the effects of trauma in one generation, a decade of deep healing I rekon would help every last human thrive. I really do believe if we try, we can. It all starts with a seed of doubt and ends with a ripple of love.